The Gift of Help: For yourself & each other
How do we encourage more of us to accept help when it’s offered, and ask for help when they need it?
As I deal with the challenge of living with a lymphoma and chemotherapy, I’ve encountered some life-changing lessons about the gift of help. The transformative realisation that accepting help is a gift since you give the chance for the help giver to experience joy, pride and/or the feel good factor of supporting someone they care about.
So I’m now on a mission to transform us all from a world of help rejectors to help receivers. So we can all revel in the Gift of Help.
This first season features conversations with people who share their inspiring health journey stories of how they’ve overcome cancer, concussion, ankle reconstructions, blindness. We discuss their raw and honest experience of asking for and accepting help and how this has changed and supported them. And then importantly we reveal some ways that they find useful to get over mental blocks to accept and ask for help.
The Gift of Help: For yourself & each other
Ep 9 Embracing your network of help, and the power of the mind
In this episode I chat with Tim Wotton. A Cystic Fibrosis sufferer, who has been defying the odds all his life. He wasn’t expected to live past his 17th birthday, but yet at 51 he continues to embrace life as a motivational speaker, author, hockey player and family man.
He explains from how from a young age, he was forced to accept and ask for help. How this has made him feel more like a survivor than a victim. And that when he went to University he appreciated that help is out there in abundance, and people offer it out of love and the profound feeling they get by doing so.
Some of the themes we cover are:
- The power of the mind, nature, stillness and following your breath enable us to embrace our own wisdom.
- How Tim historically managed his inevitable low moments and frustration with mental workouts and self-talk. But also struggles to reach out for help to others during those times.
- Our brains are hard wired to negativity and hence often feel like a victim. How using self-talk, anchoring yourself to the present and a fake-it til you make it approach can influence your physical health and how feel about it.
- An attitude of practise makes progress to nurture positive self-care habits.
- The practise of Helping yourself by helping others, enables you to become less of a victim, by passing over compassion to others.
- Asking for and accepting help by sharing the burden of survival embraces the ecosystem of willing and motivated helpers in your world.
- And when you realise people are waiting to be asked, how reaching out to close family and friends with the phrase ‘Your help please’ can be game-changing. For you and for them. By doing so it can make those around you more likely to offer you help in the future versus waiting to be asked.
- Most people offer help unconditionally, not expecting it to be returned, since it simply ‘serves them and their sense of self-worth.
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