The Gift of Help: For yourself & each other
How do we encourage more of us to accept help when it’s offered, and ask for help when they need it?
As I deal with the challenge of living with a lymphoma and chemotherapy, I’ve encountered some life-changing lessons about the gift of help. The transformative realisation that accepting help is a gift since you give the chance for the help giver to experience joy, pride and/or the feel good factor of supporting someone they care about.
So I’m now on a mission to transform us all from a world of help rejectors to help receivers. So we can all revel in the Gift of Help.
This first season features conversations with people who share their inspiring health journey stories of how they’ve overcome cancer, concussion, ankle reconstructions, blindness. We discuss their raw and honest experience of asking for and accepting help and how this has changed and supported them. And then importantly we reveal some ways that they find useful to get over mental blocks to accept and ask for help.
Episodes
25 episodes
Ep. 16: Getting over your fears: Harnessing the power of help to launch a game-changing business
This episode is with Nicolette Lazarus, a self-described midlife woman, solo female founder with a 100% record of getting through bad days. Her life has been quite a journey - growing up in an immigrant family in...
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58:14
Ep. 15: Priceless lessons about ‘Help’ from surviving skin cancer and starting up your own business
This episode is with Greg Allon, father of 3, Chief Operating Officer at a TV Production company, enthusiastic runner, blog writer and aspirational author15 years ago he was diagnosed with malignant melanoma whilst his youngest of three ...
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55:36
Ep. 14: 6 Life-enhancing take-aways from meeting Simon Sinek
Recently I had the remarkable experience of meeting Simon Sinek, the renowned author, inspirational speaker and podcast host. It represented a wonderful reminder of you how when we dare to ask for help amazing things can happe...
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13:19
Ep 13: Meeting Simon Sinek: An inspiring story about daring to ask
This episode tells the inspiring personal story of the life-changing benefits of practising what I’m preaching. To be aware of and have the motivation to overcome your blockers and asking for help. And for this to massively serve m...
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Season 2
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Episode 13
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13:53
Nugget #8: The benefits to you, and those around you, of accepting help unconditionally
Here’s a few nuggets and insights from the clip of my conversation with Matt Black a colon cancer survivor and now charismatic campaigner.Accepting help with unconditional gratitude, can trigger not only an unexpected mood and energy bo...
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Season 2
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10:34
Nugget #7: Extraordinary power of human connection simply from accepting help
In this short clip from my conversation with David Smith, the gold-winning Paralympian, we talk about the joy and priceless value of human connection from simply asking, offering and accepting help even with strangers. Plus how his atti...
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7:17
Nugget #6: The joy of being asked for help
This clip is from conversation with Osher Günsberg.In the spirit of the joy of being asked for help, we talk about it being not the survival of the fittest, but more survival of the friendliest. And that as a species we have succe...
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8:06
Ep 12 David Smith, Paralympian's passion to help others and live a life with purpose
This conversation tells the story of how a Paralympian gold medallist’s grit and self-reliance gave way to vulnerability, self-awareness, accepting and offering help and a greater sense of purpose.David was a promising national le...
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58:09
Ep 11 How embracing help supported Matt to beat colon cancer during Covid
I chat with Matt Black, a chartered surveyor from London, father of two and colon cancer survivor. Matt now campaigns to encourage everyone, especially head-in-the-sand middle-aged men, to regularly check themselves and be aware of...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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48:16
Ep 10 How Osher Günsberg has successfully overcome his battle with anxiety & addiction
In this episode, I chat with Osher Günsberg, Australian award-winning TV presenter, author, podcast host, writer, and mental health advocate. Osher talks openly about his self destructive early career years as a roadie, then radio...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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58:52
Ep 9 Embracing your network of help, and the power of the mind
In this episode I chat with Tim Wotton. A Cystic Fibrosis sufferer, who has been defying the odds all his life. He wasn’t expected to live past his 17th birthday, but yet at 51 he continues to embrace life as a motivational speaker,...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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43:54
Nugget #5: Being kind to yourself increases your instinct to help yourself
This clip is from my conversation with David Rosen.We cover off the theme of how we should be more kind to ourselves, and that this can increase our instinct to actually help ourselves, and in the end of the wonderful outcome of helping...
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6:01
Ep. 8: 35 Life-changing lessons 12 months on since my diagnosis
A year ago I was admitted to hospital … and nearly said goodbye. It’s been the most extraordinary past 12 months of priceless lessons. So on Ashley 2.0’s birthday I wanted to share what I’ve learnt about life, myself and each other...
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Season 1
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Episode 12
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23:43
Nugget #4: Accepting help allows people to experience pride and joy
This clip was from my conversation with Tom Bagnall, a survivor of Stage 3 melanoma cancer.Friends of Tom were invested in his recovery. By accepting help, it gave a chance for friends to rally together to support him. They...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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7:13
Nugget #3: Tips for offering help, and understanding your own blockers to accepting help
This clip was from my conversation with Tom Bagnall, a survivor of Stage 3 melanoma cancer.We talk about tips for offering help: Make them specific, tangible and constructive. And how recognising your own historical blockers, ...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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6:22
Nugget #2: Rejecting help is selfish. Accepting help is self-care!
In this clip from conversation about my health journey, we talk about the abundance of help around us, and that ironically to not accept help is selfish. But accepting it is practising self-care, and a chance to trigger a wonderful positive rip...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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8:53
Nugget #1: 3 practical tips to make it easier to accept offers of help!
This short episode covers 3 simple tips:1. If you have trouble accepting that offer, consider it the other way round - would you happily offer help if you were asked in the same sitation?2. Avoid assuming there is an effort, b...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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4:42
Ep. 7 Those who help others often struggle to help themselves
This episode is with Ursula Tomlinson, a wonderfully generous retired paediatric oncologist nurse I met recently on a personal development program. Born into a large family, and as the eldest she learned to be highly independent, se...
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1:01:44
Ep. 6 How hitting rock bottom pushes us to accept help
This episode is with Ton van Klaveren, a good Dutch friend, successful head of corporate sales, aspirational business owner and damn strong cyclist.Highly driven and active, and a self-described impatient, somewhat private and fiercely inde...
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50:38
Ep. 5 How to be independent AND accept help at the same time
This episode is with Daniel Kramer, a 24 year old cousin, fellow podcaster, keen sportsman and someone who’s relentlessly curious to find ways to improve himself.Born with only 40% vision in one eye and then diagnosed with ADHD, his sto...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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1:00:20
Ep. 4 Become a champion help receiver
This episode is with David Wasserman, a good friend of 30 years, a Sydney based Entrepreneur, passionate dog owner, sports fan and cricketerProudly independent resourceful and never wanting to make a fuss.He's had ...
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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1:01:31
Ep. 3 Being kind and vulnerable enough to accept help
In this episode I speak with David Rosen, an old school friend, professor and founder of his own law practice. Proudly stoic, philosophical and extraordinary self reliant.His recent journey is quite the rollercoaster. D...
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Season 1
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Episode 3
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57:35
Ep. 2 Embracing your own "Team Help"
In this episode, I chat with Tom Bagnall. A successful business owner from the UK, marathon runner and father of two young kids living in AmsterdamAt the beginning of the pandemic he was diagnosed with a stubborn Stage 3 melanoma c...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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1:13:09
The Gift of Help: Trailer
On 8 Apr 2022 I was urgently admitted to hospital with a lymphoma and v rare auto immune disease. And then put on a debilitating chemo and immunotherapy for 5 months.Since then I’ve been a life changing and transformative experience. &n...
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Ep. 1 How a cancer diagnosis & becoming a help receiver changed my life
In this first episode, recorded in September, I talk about my own health journey story with a good friend of mine. We cover a lot of fascinating and revealing topics.The surprising way I first dealt with my diagnosis of a lymp...
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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