The Gift of Help: For yourself & each other
How do we encourage more of us to accept help when it’s offered, and ask for help when they need it?
As I deal with the challenge of living with a lymphoma and chemotherapy, I’ve encountered some life-changing lessons about the gift of help. The transformative realisation that accepting help is a gift since you give the chance for the help giver to experience joy, pride and/or the feel good factor of supporting someone they care about.
So I’m now on a mission to transform us all from a world of help rejectors to help receivers. So we can all revel in the Gift of Help.
This first season features conversations with people who share their inspiring health journey stories of how they’ve overcome cancer, concussion, ankle reconstructions, blindness. We discuss their raw and honest experience of asking for and accepting help and how this has changed and supported them. And then importantly we reveal some ways that they find useful to get over mental blocks to accept and ask for help.
The Gift of Help: For yourself & each other
Ep. 16: Getting over your fears: Harnessing the power of help to launch a game-changing business
This episode is with Nicolette Lazarus, a self-described midlife woman, solo female founder with a 100% record of getting through bad days.
Her life has been quite a journey - growing up in an immigrant family in the early 70s, having her attitude to help inadvertently imprinted by an incident with her younger smarter brother, battling to have a successful career in advertising, a post-divorce transformational solo adventure through Australia’s outback, through to a deeply challenging time during her 40’s navigating perimenopause.
All of this has led her to follow her purpose and start Womanship, a game-changing help each other community for women and wellness providers.
Some themes we cover:
The influence on her attitude to help of a seemingly innocuous encounters in ur childhood
Eldest child syndrome and expectation to help other people
Needing to prove we can do things and as good as other people prevent us from us asking for help
How self-acceptance is vital to getting comfortable to have the self-worth to ask for help.
Holding space for people to talk is a priceless form of offering help
Difficulty to talk about the very private experience of miscarriage
The importance of asking for help you become the person that you know you have the potential to become.
The historical negative cognation of therapy and help can hold people back from seeking support
The easier approach to ask for help on behalf of your passion project versus asking explicitly for yourself.
Being specific with your ask is a great way to increase your success at getting a successful outcome to your request.
Telling yourself what’s the worst that can happen will help get over your fears of asking.
Want to get early access to Nicolette's Womanship platform? You can sign up at www.womanship.co and/or follow @_Womanship on Instagram for inspirational content and exclusive updates. #sharemoreworryless
You can contact me on:
Email: ashley@thegiftofhelp.org
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